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Friday, December 6, 2013

Listen Up Everyone! Dateline NBC wants to hear from you!

At times, when a family is suffering significant trauma such as “not knowing” where a loved one is, we wonder what we can say or what we can do to ease some of that pain. Words are not always easy to come by when we see a family suffering in ways we could never really comprehend unless we are placed in the same circumstance.

Every family I have known throughout my twenty-years working in the field of missing persons ALL say, “This is a club no one wants to be a part of”.

Families of missing persons suffer ambiguous loss and according to a woman, who I consider a pioneer in her field, Dr. Pauline Boss has stated, “Ambiguous loss differs from ordinary loss in that there is no verification of death or no certainty that the person will come back or return to the way they used to be.” According to Boss, the trauma of ambiguous loss is the most severe of human experiences.

According to the FBI National Crime Information Center (NCIC), as of November 30, 2013, there are 84,135 active missing person cases in the United States. The numbers of active missing person cases are unimaginable. In California alone, there are currently 20,421 active missing persons and 20,421 families searching for answers.

It is not always easy to know what to say to a family desperately searching for someone they love. However, when called to action, when we let our united voices be heard on behalf of others, there is no better way to help these families maintain their strength to remain the loudest of the voices of those who remain missing. Here is our chance to help. ~ Written by Kym L. Pasqualini, founder and CEO of National Center for Missing Adults (1994-2010)

*IMPORTANT: Following is a letter from Lynn Ching, the courageous mother of Sean Sidi, a young man who has been missing from San Francisco since May 21, 2013. Sean suffered a life-threatening fall prior to his disappearance and diagnosed with Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI). 

DATELINE NBC is soliciting stories about missing persons. Needless to say we would LOVE to get national coverage, about Sean (SIDI), ALL the young men missing from San Francisco, and the fact that young men are going missing from San Francisco at an alarming rate. 

YOU will greatly increase our chances of getting on DATELINE NBC, if you leave a comment AT THE DATELINE LINK BELOW about Sean SIDI and the situation in general. In your message, please refer to Sean’s Facebook page at as it references ALL the missing boys.

Four (4) boys missing in 2013 alone!!! Derrick SHAO, age 20 (Missing 11/2013, found deceased); Paulo NETTO, age 23 (Missing 10/2013); Sean SIDI, age 19 (Missing 5/2013), Crishtian HUGHES, age 20 (Missing 2/2013). Three others who vanished earlier, are still missing: Shawn DICKERSON, age 25 (Missing 12/2011); Cameron REMMER, age 31 (Missing October 2011) & Jackson MILLER, age 23 (Missing May 2010). 

The rate that our young men are vanishing from San Francisco is a (disturbing) COMMUNITY ISSUE. Please let Dateline NBC hear from you!

Thank you!
Lynn (Sean’s Mom)